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Originally Posted by Ladyofshallot
Please tell me if you think i should write to him...am confused...sometimes seems like a good idea to have my say...but knowing i will not get a response even, another way to play around with my self respect...but he needs to know what he's done...he can't go sailing into the sunset....just like that...but then i do know also now it's no longer about him but me...he's moved on and i need to give myself closure...will this be a closure for me...this communication?
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.......this is what I posted to you in the "New Member Intro - Forum"...
you will figure out what is best for you..
You are feeling a lot things! Writing here or journaling may help. Get it out of your head. If you try to talk to him, remember you are far from rational right now. I could go on and on about the process of getting over my romance..it would take days. But I did write/email him to work on getting closure for myself..some of the time I did not send the emails and sometimes I did. Not sure if he even read them...but it did help me
I would start out saying "this is probably more for me than for you as I work on healing". We were still trying to hold onto a friendship which made it twice as hard getting over him. But one thing that helped...I love my job and am very passionate about it...so I was able to get some of my needs met at work. Go for walks when you feel like it..volunteer for something when you are ready - could turn into a job. When I was down my brother would tell me to go for a walk...I could not even put on tennis shoes and then would feel guilty about not even feeling like taking a walk...but one day I did. I love to walk to music with the head phones on... I sing I cry I laugh. You find something that works for you.
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