Hi Pianogirl, sometimes if the hurt is real bad you might not be ready to deal with it at the time, it might just be too much to face/confront, so don't fault yourself on that. Although as you know it won't necessarily just go away even if you aren't facing it "full on" and working to resolve it.
I'm not sure it has to be too late at any time after something has happened to really deal with it though. Maybe now, while you're a little stronger, have a little more insight it would be a good time to start working on things.
Sure, trying to take any lessons you can from something, putting it more in your past and focusing on making the future better can be a great idea. But if it is too difficult to do that then you may want to return to what happened to you and work a bit more on trying to resolve it and finding some "peace" in yourself.
If you want to talk more though..........
Alison