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Originally Posted by StuckinRut
My sister replied wanting to know why I couldn't attend. I replied to say I'd let her know if things changed such that I would be able to come after all. She sent an aggressive text back telling me I was "being secretive" (the stock response used by my mum when I don't tell her my personal business) and stating that she felt this should be enough notice for me to be able to attend... I'm beginning to realise that I don't know what a normal family relationship is. Is this normal?
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You have every right to keep things private from whomever you choose. The idea that just because she's your sister meaning you have to share every detail is just faulty thinking on her part.
No it is not normal but it happens. There are people that are far more nosey than is good for them and she sounds not only like she's nosey but bossy and controlling too. that her "notice" shoudl be sufficient sounds like she likes it to go her way or throws a fit. Even if you said your reason was b/c you didn't want to go, that should be sufficient. You're an adult and can make choices of your own, she has no right to make it sound like you are required to go.
It took me many years to break from my dysfunctional family and tbh I'm not sure I know what normal is yet either.