Forgiveness is always good I think. Not only does it help the one you're forgiving, but it does a wealth of good healing for oneself.

I'm confused as to why contacting someone who is depressed and tell her you feel disappointed with your previous actions towards her, would be possessive. I think it might be good for her, and it since you are remembering it, why not let it be good for you too? If God has called this to your memory, perhaps now is the time to make contact. TC