I could never live like that.

Its not because sex is the be all and end all of every relationship, but because to many of us its where we get a huge chunk of our feelings of being intimate, connected, and wanted fullfilled... I could not live with someone who's not at all interested in those needs of mine.

Then I may as well live with my brother.

Sure I would probably change my tune if there were medical / physical issues, but this is an outright refusal, which to ME would be a dealbreaker. Because I would feel like I'm not important enough for him to even try.

I can't handle feeling rejected, and if I were in your shoes I would be feeling perpetually rejected. That would mentally destablize me in no time!

Idk how you do it, honest.
Sure of course loving him helps you stay, but at what cost?

For me? Not a price I could afford to pay, it would impact me negatively on wayyy too many levels for me to be able to come out healthy.

So the point of my ramble?

Time to do a benefit/cost analysis
See if no sex is something you could eventually get used to with minimal repercussion.

Because at the moment you've been trying to get it all this time, not trying to accept its not gonna happen...

Then check if all his other good qualities can more than make up for the lack of intimacy...

Then you calculate it...