Therapy. No joke. A good therapist can help you work through this, and amazingly by doing so it will alleviate some of that pain. (We are a well connected body/mind/spirit creature.)

I am disabled, one reason is the back and neck... and chronic pain. As I isolated myself and did less and less, the pain of course diminished some... some of that is because by not aggravating the vertebraes and bone spurs there was less pain, and some was because of less stress of trying to live in a world I didn't seem to fit into anymore... and once I began to come back into life, the pain increased and I remembered one of the reasons I isolated in the first place. I have worked through much of that, though I am still in chronic pain, I have learned to manage it. Still, there are periods of time where the frustration is hard to manage. (((gentle hug)))