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For item number one, how about phrasing it as wanting/needing him to get some help with his mental illness.
Number two seems to be a power issue, he makes the money he controls the money, that is a lot of power. You need to have a budget on paper, make sure you both know everything about all financial issues, and that you both have access to money as long as you BOTH stick to your agreed upon budget.
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