View Single Post
 
Old Apr 22, 2014, 05:28 PM
Anonymous37893
Guest
 
Posts: n/a
Quote:
Originally Posted by Rayne Selene View Post
I think it is pretty normal for this to happen, especially for a woman who doesn't have a stable relationship in her life. Coming from someone who spent the majority of my life without any guys showing romantic interest, it can be pretty exciting when someone finally dates you. It gets very easy to pass up a night with friends to go out with your boyfriend, and I know that I'm guilty of doing that a lot. Once my boyfriend and I had been dating for a while though, I realized I didn't have a lot of friends and I realized just how badly I needed them. I think the best advice I can give you is to be honest with your friends and tell them that it's not cool for them to ignore you for their boyfriend. It may be hard for them to hear, but try to just be as honest as possible without getting angry. Don't make them feel like they're being attacked, or they'll probably just get defensive. Make sure they know how important their friendship is to you, and how hurtful it is to be pushed to the side. A lot of times, they may not even realize they're doing it. That's the best advice I've got, anyways.
-------------------------------------------------------------
You're right about what you said. I'll just let them enjoy their time with their latest love interest and hopefully they'll eventually realize that other people do exist, lol! Usually the "honeymoon" phase doesn't last to long. Once reality sets in, and the novelty wears off a little, then they usually act like their old selves again.

My bff has told me a few times that w/o love, she'd shrivel up and die! She seems to need a guy to feel loved, wanted, and special! She even went so far as to pressure this one guy to marry her! Well, that didn't work out and now they'll eventually get a divorce. He ended up cheating on her twice! She is currently single, but I'm sure that it won't be long until she finds a new guy to obsess over. She is also super desperate to get married and have kids.

Seriously though, these friends of mine tend to be super obsessed with guys! One of my other friends is letting her new b.f live with her and she won't spend any time with me unless he's with his kids. He's divorced and so is she. With her last b.f, she would make tentative plans with me when she thought her super flaky b.f might show up at her place, ugh!

Long story short, I finally talked her into dumping him! This new guy though treats her like a queen which is something that has never happened to her before with any guy that I know of! Her last two ex husbands cheated on her and both of them were drug addicts too.

If she continues to act like this, then I'll have to speak up and let her know how I feel. I just hope that she won't get upset and defensive. I'll be as nice and open about things as possible though without hurting her feelings of course! I just hope that I will never have to have that talk with her!

Last edited by Anonymous37893; Apr 22, 2014 at 05:41 PM.