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Originally Posted by waiting4
I have experienced that, but only during highschool. Most mature women (and I'm guessing men) don't disappear when they find a love interest...if anything, after the initial 'getting to know' the new bf/gf, they want very much to include them with their friends. Sometimes, it's to gain approval, sometimes to show off...sometimes, both. At any rate, if your friends are still stuck in that loop, then I suggest they are still on the same maturity level as teenagers....as you suggested.
Try not to take it personally. Fact is, if they can't come to grips with 'sharing the wealth' with their good friends...odds are they are also smothering the bf/gf...and the relationship is doomed anyway. Just wait a few months.
Take care.
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I think that you're right about what you said, especially about the showing off aspect of things. Both of my friends think that it's nice to have a man around to help out with things and to be taken care of. They're right, it is nice, but it's also nice to have friends to be there for you too!
Sometimes it seems as if they rely to much on a man to make them feel attractive, confident, special, and loved. I know that my bff has probably smothered her soon to be ex to much as she pressured him into marriage after only knowing him for less than a year. She expected him to stop hanging out with his friends most of the time. To make a long story short, things didn't work out and although they're still living together, she is planning on divorcing him in the near future. She has no place to go for now, so she's stuck.
I hate to say this, but both of my friends do seem to have a h.s mentality when it comes to guys. I do understand how great it is to be in a relationship, but I would never end up ignoring my friends once I'm in one! So this behaviour is hurtful and unfortunately, I might have to have a talk with one of my friends about this soon if things don't change. Of course, I'll be as diplomatic about things as possible!