I'm just wondering if anybody else struggles with connecting your feelings together with your words in therapy

what I mean is when you share something that happened maybe during your week that was upsetting in some way and it falls flat....like there's no feeling attached. Maybe the feelings are in the room but you can't seem to express them...idk.
My T told me he could tell I was upset not only by my voice, but because
he can feel it. I don't know what to say to that....I am so fragmented - everything is jumbled up and compartmentalized. I don't even know who I am sometimes in T and that's really the problem, right? Not the content of my words but the way I'm not connected to my experience.
How do you push past or through this thing? Has anyone been through this type of experience and been able to go deeper? I'm feeling confused and kind of empty-like or numb about this....a bit sad too because I'm afraid T is not able to help me if I can't get past this stuff soon...