I'm glad you didn't take what I said too badly. I felt awkward about writing it because i didn't want you to think you were to blame or a terrible person- you aren't.

It's just that I read something a while back that said to the effect that borderlines are capable of empathy they just have so much pain in their lives that it's hard to see through it to see the pain of others and I whole heartedly agree.

I have been able to curb many of my nasty habits by focusing on how it would hurt someone who cared about me.

I'm hoping maybe it can help you too.