What else are you doing? It can be hard if we don't have much to do or think about and put all our eggs in the other person basket. It sets up an artificial "care" more thing because the percentage of your time you are thinking about you and him is greater by default? When I went to work I did not think about my husband at work, for example, but that did not mean I did not care about him or, his not thinking about me when he worked, that he did not care about me. But if I'm home and he's working, etc. then I'm going to think about him more than he is, me?

My husband can't operate his phone and it isn't even set up for texting (he technically could but it's a flip phone. I sent a text to my cell phone to see if his phone had the capability). I only have to pay $25 for 3 months for him (it's an AT&T "Go Phone") and he has over $150 in his account rolling over and being added to constantly! But I don't feel his use of the phone is related to how much he cares about me; he's a guy :-) and not into calling or texting or whatever when he's not with me. That's just him, doesn't have much to do with our relationship?

Hard to tell about the treatment. He could just feel comfortable with you and not like he has to try/treat you differently than he does himself. I would have a conversation with him, think of some things you would like him to do with him and see if you can set up "dates" with him, etc. My husband and I do things together, no reason you can't set stuff up and see if you can get him to agree and schedule stuff with you; at least that will tell you more if he does/does not?