Suzy, I know if feels as if you failed therapy, but that isn't the case-- It's not a test... Rather, it's like any relationship-- two people have to mesh well together for anything to occur. I think a lot of people have the misconception that they should be able to get help from a therapist just because that person is... a therapist! However, sometimes it takes more than once to find the right therapist... Personally speaking, this is my 3rd therapist, and my 6th pdoc. I consider my T to be my "soulmate" of therapy. I can't imagine being with anyone else, we go very well together as a therapeutic team. But that wasn't accomplished in my first, or even second, try at therapy. Same with my pdoc. I have finally found one that understands the way I prefer to go about treatment.... But that was after 5 pdocs that didn't fit well with me! I really urge you to find another T. You are not on your own, there are millions of Ts out there.... Surely you will find your therapy "soulmate" as well. Good luck.