Thanks canders, DepressMe, and pinksoil for your advice and support. (((hugs)))

pinksoil, that is reassuring what you wrote about therapists being equipped to deal with people who are resistant to therapy. Yes, I have tried to portray my own (recent) experience in therapy to her in a positive light. I have told her what it is like so she knows what to expect.

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Does your daughter understand the reasons why it was suggested that she enter therapy? What are the reasons that she gave you that she doesn't want to go?

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I have explained what the doctor said and added my own reasons too and some from my own T, as we have discussed this. I'm not sure she understands, though. I've tried to be positive and emphasize how counseling might help her rather than dwell on her problems. I don't want to make her feel bad about herself, you know, like "you need help you are so screwed up." That has not been part of our dialog at all. She is not rational about why she doesn't want to go and can't really articulate that to me. Just that she does not want to go. She is very shy and especially has trouble communicating with adults. So I think just the very idea of being alone in a room with a stranger and being expected to talk to her for an hour is extremely intimidating.

It sounds like several people here think I should be firm in having my daughter go for counseling, at least for a few sessions. So I think I'll go with that plan. If she won't go in the room with the counselor, I don't know what I'll do. Maybe go in myself and ask for advice.

I just feel overwhelmed with this. I have these other major problems I'm trying to solve in my own therapy but my daughter needs so much help. Everything just seems to be falling apart, and I feel all the responsibility for keeping things together and taking care of everyone. I'm trying to add in some additional support for my daughter with the counseling, but she doesn't want it. I just don't know how to handle all of this.