Thanks, alex. What you wrote has been my fear. The trouble is she is not rational and cannot (or will not) communicate to me why she doesn't want to go, so I can't reassure her or really "hear" her as she won't tell me. I'm left to guess why she doesn't want to go. Meanwhile, she is just angry. I don't know how to make her feel "heard" because she won't give me anything to listen to.

I will be seeing my own T a couple of days before my daughter's appointment, so maybe I'll ask his advice. I just feel at my wits' end.