More than anything else it's a relief to be able to speak to someone about something i deeply regret, not so much the indiscretion of a an affair, strangely, but the fact that I got carried away by an ambitious, manipulative, cowardly fraud, lost my job and peace of mind in the process...i still feel very bitter and used but at least i know there are folks who have the time & inclination to respond without judging....although not mincing words and while pointing out the reality...a decade down the line I will still wonder why he did what he did...but then maybe it won't hurt so bad