Hello DePressMe.
I am sorry you are having a hard time at this time regarding your boyfriend. Change is hard, but you also need to keep yourself safe with your mental health as well to help things adjust more to your liking and to what you are capable of handling yourself. Therapy and Al-Anon meetings are good to help someone living with an alcoholic or former alcoholic. The main thing is to get the help you need to help yourself get through the hard times and the adjustment period. I hope the best for you and your boyfriend. Take care Soidhonia