I would be very concerned with your preschooler's safety. This man seems a bit selfish. Why cant you take trips on your own, without the kids? I still remember, with regret, the time my husband forced me to use my diaphragm on a camping trip and i just started my period. I was so uncomfortable, plus it wasnt healthy or safe for me, but he only cared about himself. Its hard for me to accept that i aligned myself with such a selfish and inconsiderate person. Its taking a long time in therapy to understand why and not feel stupid about it.