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Originally Posted by BeteNoire
I'm glad you didn't take what I said too badly. I felt awkward about writing it because i didn't want you to think you were to blame or a terrible person- you aren't.
It's just that I read something a while back that said to the effect that borderlines are capable of empathy they just have so much pain in their lives that it's hard to see through it to see the pain of others and I whole heartedly agree.
I have been able to curb many of my nasty habits by focusing on how it would hurt someone who cared about me.
I'm hoping maybe it can help you too.  |
Not at all... I appreciate it. It's something I needed to hear. He says the same things to me. He says I have no empathy. Of course, I disagree with that. I am in defense mode with him right now and that is never good. He is obsessed with me coming clean and him knowing everything. I have told him many times the things I have done. Although I know I leave some little things out, it is never as bad as he thinks it is. He has a need for me to go from beginning to end and leave no stone unturned. For me, this is impossible. I do love him. I do want my marriage to work. But my mind is going crazy. I'm just all over the place, I know. I have nasty habits that need curbing... I welcome your advice
