Hello dear your story is a long one but I really took time and read it word for word...my dear honestly u need to move on if your man does not want to change...you cannot keep living with a porn addict. Wednesday next week will make it 3wks since I stoped smoking. And I've been smoking pot since 1996. I have daughter who would be a year in june so I had to really think and sit up so I can lay a good example. Let's not keep indulging into sentiments. You were very right by wetting the crazy pono infested hard drive with water...another thing is you can't force anyone to change. Since you know you aint perfect and dropped most of your bad sides why the hell is he refusing to do the same or understand your fears and plights...My dear life is too real to be faked..Now the solution is do you love him?if yes. Do you think he loves you? Because if he does he would buckle up so peace can reign. These are the things that should be checked if not I will say move on and leave your life in a more responsible manner or better still just change bigtime and keep watching him fool himself and don't let him touch you with those pono hands....and if he comes to talk things out you simply tell him you have changed for the better and you don't care about whatever he does again because we all have our lives to live in other words, he better change if not you will move ahead. Tell him you will move so far in life to the extent that he won't be able to set his eyes on you again. Yeah my dear let us call a spade a spade and quit the sentiments because we can handle things peacefully with widom and understanding. Cheers. Please update me by sending me a Pm.