Hey Isntlifewonderful,

Thanks for replying so quickly.

To be frank - everything that you just said - makes me even more supportive of the advice I threw in your direction... I think it's a bad idea. I think it's a recipe for disaster. I cannot tell you what to do - no one can but yourself... But make sure you take your time and really process the costs / benefits - surrounding an intimate relationship with this girl. To me it sounds like you've already made a decision deep down - and there's nothing anyone can do to stop it - but trust me: almost all impulsive decisions pertaining to relationships - made by a borderline: result in a worse outcome.

Hearing how you describe her - the feelings that you have - the fact that you couldn't go on living anymore without her - that your aspirations mean nothing without her in your life - those are textbook rationale's from borderline sufferers. The people on this forum have given you VERY good advice on this thread - and you can be rest assured that they do INDEED: have YOUR best interests in mind when sharing their advice... It is not to be taken lightly when so many people say the same thing, and that is what you've been told on your thread. The question is: did you ask for advice; for advice? Or did you ask for advice - to better justify the decision you have already made...?

Given that you are so young - it makes sense that you stumble into your current scenario. Trust me - we all do it. I still could do it if I'm not careful... But I wish I had someone there at the time when I made, [[that decision]] - to fall so hard for someone I had feelings for - because it would have saved both myself, herself - and just about anyone else I knew - a whole lot of trouble and anger and anxiety... Ultimately it was purely bad for all parties... And the way you are expressing your feelings for her - it sounds so close to what I would have said at the time, let alone compared to all borderline feelings when we're being sucked in.

It is quite literally - the type of thing that can make or break us borderlines. However, if it does make us better or make us feel whole - it only lasts for a time... Soon enough we still have to learn to be happy and content with ourselves because things change. Whether they be things that are in our control or not - they still happen - and that is something you need to prepare yourself for at ALL costs... Even if it means stopping yourself from falling into a relationship like the one that you're describing...

Literally - right now - you could set boundaries with yourself and with her. By saying to yourself: "Yeah, I do have genuine feelings about this girl and she has them for me, but honestly - I would rather have a genuine friend - than nothing at all," you would be saving everyone a whole lot of trouble in the future.

I am sorry that you are so, 'absorbed,' by this person. It is not a healthy scenario whatsoever and I would do everything in my power to distract you from doing what you seem to be, "all in," for - if I was your friend. Because that is what a genuine friend would do.

Thanks,
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