Thank you for your responses.

Yes, she is very inflexible, almost robotic. But I enjoy the structure, and it allows me to feel that I am not talking to a person, and this helps me reveal everything to her.

I am not hurt over the flowers, just a little embarrassed. She explained that she has a policy where she does not receive gifts, but she acknowledged the message it sends her and we discussed how the flowers would best be used, and then segued into a conversation about my relationship with my partner.