maybe her reasons aren't rationally expressible in the sense that they are emotions (that she might well be giving herself a hard time about already).

it can be hard to disclose emotions if we worry that we will be thought of as stupid or irrational or whatever.

might be that her 'reasons' need to be coaxed out of her...

sometimes acceptance is the key to change...

i still think it does need to be her decision.

but that doesn't preclude trade-offs if you allow her to do something that she really wants to do that you haven't let her for a while...