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Originally Posted by veiledregret1234
I stay because he's the only person who will date me in spite of my job. He hates it but he's willing to stick around. There's also the sad fact that I can't think of too many relationships in my life that aren't like this. It seems to be the only men attracted to me behave this way. I keep trying because I'm teriffied I'll end up alone.
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The part I bolded is the part I want to address first...
IMO, that's not a good enough reason to stay with him. Has he no redeeming qualities to balance out his abusive behaviour beyond the fact that he "sticks" around?
Its sad yes that most of your relationships have been as bad as this one, but its not just these men that are attracted to you, it would seem that you are attracted to them too.
He's not the only man that will date you, that's a blatant lie, and you should stop telling it to yourself.
Please don't settle for anything less than you deserve because you're terrified of ending up alone. You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect, regardless of the type of job you choose to have.
And if your job is negatively influencing the type of men you're choosing, then maybe, just maybe it's time to look into a different vocation... One that will serve you positively on all fronts.
I honestly think you would benefit from some therapy, you seem very lost and a bit too comfortable with being treated like shyt... Someone needs to teach you how to regain your self-worth, and exploring why you have such shytti taste in men won't hurt either, it will hopefully teach you how to choose better partners in future...
I think a Therapist is a good someone to help with this.
You deserve the good things in life, don't let self-deprecation, fear and abusive men tell you any different.
