Might sound strange coming from a married guy who has been with the same woman for near 15years… but sex scares the hell out of me also. My fear stems from childhood operations, the ridicule that came with that and other factors which I’d rather not talk about.

It’s coming to a point now where I’m going to have to bite the bullet as the wife’s clock is ticking and she really wants at least 1 child.

I’ve broached the topic reluctantly with my T (relationships are her speciality and she pushed that conversation), but it’s been put on the back burner for now till we address other pressing issues. I know those sessions are going to be joint (wife will be there), so kinda bricking it lol.

For you it could be worthwhile talking to your T (if you have one)… but end of the day relationships do not have, nor need to be sex based (we have stayed strong regardless of my shortcomings)… companionship is the glue that binds.