Tough love was what I also thought of first. Sorry, this is a very tough situation, but YOU didn't cause it.

It is unfair for your mother to put you in the middle of it, or perhaps for your brother to put your mother in the middle. But your answer must still be NO.

You must say NO. To enable this kind of person will no good. You will be hurting him more. I know you don't want it to be this way. But money is not what he needs.

My State requires counseling OR jail, because it is that important. And if they don't do counseling, they pay AND go to jail.

Let your brother use the resources that are available to him. He has been there before. You said it yourself... you are angry with him for not learning, yet you have not yet learned either? Sorry, that was a bit strong.

But I am trying to be strong for you.

You are no less a sister, or a daughter or even a person for saying no. In fact, you will be a better person, and feel like a more in control person for standing your ground. Just say no. And let that be your FINAL ANSWER!

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