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Originally Posted by bluebird14
Thank you.. these comments help alot. I also had expressed im nervous about putting my 5 year old in a room with 2 boys he doesnt even know..He had also said he feels you just throw the kids in a room and let them figure out and the adjoining door is right there.. I just disagreed. And thing is we DO have our own trip planned 2 weeks prior. alone for 3 days. He said he felt unwanted and dictated to.. I said i feel the kids come first in this situation as this is first meeting of everyone together.. that opened a whole can of worms as he said he feels the kids DONT come first.. that comment has really effected me and still does. I get you need to make a partner a priority but this is first time family coming together.. Im so torn. I need to bring it up again as need to book trip.. Thank you for all the feedback.
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Bluebird. I just now saw this.
Make plans, now, to put your 5 year old in a room with two teenage boys whom you do not even know yet??????
Are you kiddin' me????? Don't even give that the most fleeting of considerations.
You're going to have to be the adult in this situation, cause it's not going to be him. I'll give him the benefit of the doubt that his main problem is he is grotesquely under-developed in terms of having any sense whatsoever. That's painting him in the best light that I can manage. His real problem may actually be worse than that. At the very least, he has no judgement about anything. Be sure and use yours.
He feel "dictated" to??? Is this guy going to allow you to have any rights at all? Like I've said, you need to stop thinking of him as a
partner. He's a guy you have been dating and do not even know very well yet. Until you see in real life how he interacts with your child, you do not even know if he has any real partner
potential. There is too much advance planning going on here. You need to get through one scenario, before you contemplate the next.
I would advise you against either you or him investing any real money on plans for some future trip, until you see how this first meet-up works out.
Be careful.