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Originally Posted by I.Am.The.End.
At the risk of having my feelings invalidated on here...
I have a very difficult time communicating needs and how I feel to people and I think it's because I have a very real fear of my feelings being dismissed or invalidated. Either that or I'll be straight up made fun of for it, who knows?
I realize that not all my feelings are rational, but that doesn't make them any less real to me. How do I communicate that to people? As long as they acknowledge them as real feelings that have a real impact on my well-being, then we can talk about whether they're rational or not.
I can't bring myself to express needs unless specifically asked. An example is that I go too long without eating or eating much which can cause my blood sugar to get really low (I'm most likely hypoglycemic) and I need almonds, honey, etc. to not feel nauseous/weak etc. And I'm too afraid to say anything until I'm visibly ill. I'm used to pain and nausea so I usually just go through it without saying anything, often pushing my body to do what it needs to do even though I shouldn't. I'm sure there are other examples…but when it comes to physical and emotional needs, I come last. I just wish it would stop, but there's no one I trust enough to communicate all my needs. And I'm always afraid I'll be asking too much.
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Hey, I'm Anna. I want you to know that I'm here, and I care. Because I care, I'm going to quickly lecture you: EAT when you should. It's only a sign of self-respect to treat yourself--and your body--well (and you feel this respect upon acting on it). Also, it sounds like you have bipolar--do you? (I have bipolar, but I don't cycle anymore, or have need for medication--there IS hope).