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Equating a drive for love with fantasy & attraction to actors/musicians you will never meet is self-destructive. They are not even close to being in the same ballpark. I'd be more concerned with mending that misconception before you worry about finding some older man to whisk you off into fairytale-land.
As for the actual topic? I've always been attracted to older men. Some of these relationships have been incredibly destructive & I know I was being used to fulfill a very common fantasy. Which truthfully never bothered me... I was fulfilling my own! But I think the most important thing is determining why you're in the relationship & whether it is a beneficial or harmful motivation. When I was a young teenager, I think I sought out older men who had themselves [forseeably] "figured out" because that helped balance my hopelessly frantic decision making. That's also why I was sexually submissive. I desired guidance. And it was impossible in an age-group where they were going through the same self-discovery process.
Outside of my experiences? I believe most modern "age limits" are completely arbitrary. Most people do foolish & dangerous things throughout their entire lives, yet it's a punishable offense when they're under 16 or 18? That personally doesn't jive with me & I think it is a double-standard. They claim that consent cannot be made because they do not understand the reality of their decisions... But many older people clearly don't, yet they're not deemed legally incapable of culpability for their actions! It's silly.
All relationships entail a certain level of personal risk; you're putting yourself out there for someone else & expecting the same from them. Expecting trust, respect, & affection & expecting those things to weather through uncertain circumstances. So whether a relationship is "normal" or not? Those still apply. That's more important than whether something is socially acceptable or not.
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