This experience you are definitely right. The shame, anger, hurt, and sadness all have meaning and value and do force action, hopefully healthy action. I don't know about shame so much, it is pretty destructive but guilt for sure.

Maybe it is semantics but I think we define depression differently. To me it is not a mood or an emotion as I described above. I can process and work though emotions even after they have triggered a depression. This other type of depression I get I cannot process or work through or find underlying emotional conflict. That doesn't mean that there isn't value and meaning in it. It is just a different animal. A physiological one.

And now I am faced with another situation. I just found out tonight that the IRS has gone after my bank account. I thought I was totally settled with them. I haven't received a letter or anything about it. The last letter I got was like a year ago and I paid it. The problem is I think I actually owe it but I should have been notified before they took this action. It is like a total slam to the gut and ruins all the plans I had for my daughter and this summer. Financial stuff is by far my biggest trigger and huge amounts of shame around it. So I am doing my best to process this now without letting it trigger a depression. If it can go wrong it will go wrong.