I hope only the best for you bluebird, and you're right...the road ahead must be walked with your son, not just yourself. Keep centered on what is good and right for your son and you'll never have to doubt your decisions, no matter how they may hurt.

And I know they may.

One thing I always promised myself, after my previous relationship and now my recent ex is that I will NEVER allow the 'silent treatment' aka passive aggressive treatment in any relationship with another man. I've had it twice. Never again.

No one wins when that happens....I felt hurt, abandoned, ignored, and hugely abused and even tho he presented like he'd won, he was miserable because he'd created a doormat. In his illness, it was what he did naturally, but then he grew to hate the doormat, and abuse it even more.....because he could.

The 'silent treatment' now for me, is a tremendous red flag. And I'll never glance away, expecting it to disappear again. It doesn't.....it just gets worse.

Take care (((hugs)))