So I think we agree. Emotionally based depression, anger, hurt, sadness, guilt, fear, and even my definition of depression, the so called negative emotions should be honored, accepted, and validated.

So many kids are harmed because they are not validated. They are a healthy part of human make up and condition. Our generation and older ones caught the brunt of it. Children are to be seen and not heard. Big girls don't cry. Men don't cry. Don't be so angry what is wrong with you. Shame around sexual desires and masturbation.

I learned in AA and with the steps to value all those negative emotions. It is a big part of the steps. Fear is the big one and underlays the others. Fear is the hardest to face and work though but it obviously has value. It can cause a lot of unhealthy behaviors though. Same with shame. I have a hard time with that one because it has caused me so much destruction and I have seen it cause so much in others.