Wow, I wish someone had sent me to therapy when I was a teenager. :-) I know it would have helped me a lot in life.

I thought I'd share with you than one of my best friends in real life is a psychologist. She has a young client who has mostly refused to speak at all in the sessions. She keeps trying various approaches and slowly gets the girl to talk by trying really trivial subjects at first. She hasn't made a lot of progress yet, but she has no inclination to quit because she wants this poor kid (who's had a really unstable home life), to have something stable in her life so she can talk once she's ready. My friend definitely hasn't refused to see her, so I don't think you need to worry about that. And I suspect your daughter would talk eventually because it's awfully hard to sit in silence with someone (especially a therapist!).

I'm not a parent myself, but I don't think it'd be harmful to insist that your daughter go a few times. I like the suggestion someone else made about making a pact (getting her to agree to it for a few sessions and then allowing her to choose). That seems like a good approach.

I know if I ever have a teenage kid I'm gonna stick 'em in therapy.... :-)

Sidony