Hey lifeiswonderful,

I must apologize if you feel like we're judging you or pressuring you into doing one thing or another... That is not at all how I want to come across to you... So please - if that is in anyway a bother to you - know it isn't necessary. We are your friends.

The truth is - you can do whatever you want - and we all know that. You could try and formulate an explanation for love - and feelings and use it to justify your desires to date this girl - but really - there's no need to. We all understand what it is like. Love triumph's all as far as I am concerned. One doesn't have to be borderline to understand love and the temptations and all the rest. So please know that we are not invalidating your feelings whatsoever.

Your feelings are real - they are valid - and they are genuine. No one can take those away.

But I truly believe that your desire for this girl is (primarily) fueled by borderline insecurities... And that is why I am concerned about you building an intimate relationship with this particular girl. Think of it as a mirage in a desert... It looks like exactly what you need - but when you get too close - you've fallen for a mix of self deception and wishful thinking - and before you know it - you have nothing left. (No offence intended whatsoever)

I just don't want you to lose what you already have with her. You know how important this person is to you - and by taking a risk - you truly do risk losing it all with her. I know you have a strong bond with this girl and feel as though nothing on earth could separate you from her and vice-versa - but trust me - nothing rules you out from all the nasty things that can happen - as a result of a ruined intimate relationship... Very few people can maintain a friendship after failing to become intimate... It is really, really, really hard.

If there's any way to better help you understand what I've been trying to emphasize in all my posts on your thread - it is that you are not alone. You are VERY similar to us - and despite our anonymity - we all [in this borderline section of the forums] know how to smell a fellow borderline when we see one. And because I am forced to build an image of you - based purely on what I see you write - and given that you are asking for advice: my advice still stands...

as follows:

...Based on what you have shared - I cannot advise you to date this particular girl. I think it is a recipe for disaster. And that is my genuine, honest - wholehearted, who just farted - absolutely - positively - personally - flabbergasted - overstated - constipated - manifested - final answer.

(ran out of words lol)

Thanks,
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