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Originally Posted by AnxiousOne43
Sorry about the long message!
Well, here's my story:
I am 43 years old, I was diagnosed with Bipolar about 5-6 years ago.
I have been married for 14 years and with the same woman for 23.
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Fast forward about a week and she started hugging me, She tells me often that she loves me, and we have made love several times. She has told me that she is indeed hurt, but in the process of forgiving me and says that is willing to give me one more chance. She even has said a few times that my episode must have happened because of the mix of alcohol in my system and the reduction of the medication. We have, since then (her included) been more affectionate than ever and she is even making plans for a road trip together this summer.
Here is my concern: I am wondering if her actions are truly genuine and that she has really decided to forgive me, give me another chance and move forward with our relationship. Keep in mind this is the second (2) serious incident. My anxiety and depression is through the roof and all I keep obsessing over, is that this is a mask and that she is going to change her mind in the future and want to separate. This terrifies me to no end because I love her with all my heart we do everything together and she and my family mean the world to me.
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Please do not take the following too personal. I mean no harm.
You are concerned about you wife being genuine and truthful? From the looks of it, it looks like you wife has much more to be concerned about then you do. Forgiveness is very difficult if not entirely possible. The hurt can go on for a life time. But this actually is not really a bad place for the relationship to be. One thing for sure, you will never take her for granted again. Because if you do, you know what will happen next. I personally was involved in this type of relationship where we both felt that way. But we did not look at it as anything bad, just realistic. It was the best relationship that I ever had.
So just count your blessings. And hope you will not give her another good reason to leave. Appreciate what you do have right now. And hope she feels the same way. This is what i would do.
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PLEASE NOTE: I am very interested and appreciative of feedback from anyone, but also especially women, as I would imagine they would have a more insight as to what my wife is thinking right now.
Thank you so much for reading,
AnxiousOne
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I hope a all will be well for you!
