In my first months of therapy, as I recalled recent conversations with family, I wasn't even aware with the passive ways they tried to undermine my progress. And my T said, "You know, your family wants you to fail." I'm like. WTF. I stewed on it and brought it back up a few weeks later when I realized it was true.

Sometimes breaking the "family script" is very threatening, and they may be both proud and resentful. It can get messy, but hold your ground. If you can't handle them, then you could create some distance between those people until you are ready to handle them.

Be strong, and be true to yourself, you will come out ahead.