Waiting4
It's an old trick....distract, attack, control. My ex who is NPD was master of it, and I ended up giving in so many times, by the end of the relationship it was like I'd been caught up in a tornado. Rereading messages and emails astonished me on the number of things he made me believe, and how he twisted reality to fit his needs.
This resonates with me. My ex was NPD too. When I look back I can't believe how manipulating he was. So many times blamed myself and apologized to him, while he twisted things, lied and gaslighted.
Never again. Narcs are destroyers.

Agree, kids come first. And a young lad should not be left alone with two unknown teens.