I did ask the employer and basically it was lacking self awareness and being oblivious to certain things in situations like once I inadvertently moved my chair inbetween the teacher and a student who she was talking to. A main issue is not sizing up situations before entering them and just kind of barging in. That's the "social cues" issue. I have no difficulty in reading faces or body language, at least none that I am aware of. I now think autism is probably likely in my case due to my obsessive interests. Socially I am alright and can read faces, body language, etc. However, I do sometimes do stuff kind of like you described like leaving a social function early if it is allowed but not the norm, etc. So, maybe she's right in a sense but the "what would you do if someone was crying?" was really irritating. I may have autism (which in my case has been both positive as well as negative), but I am not socially inept per se. Even as a kid, I was relatively social and never had difficulties with things like what she described about the crying. Any body language idiosyncrasies were minor enough that neither family or anyone else has really picked up on it