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Originally Posted by bluebird14
Yes he has said it doesnt take long to pull out fun and send texts of where im at or doing especially on the weekends.. i said.. i do.. i said i barley get any info what u do.. I said i always text the highlights.. and hope end of night when son in bed we talk about day..he said he feels un thought of cuz i dont MAKE time to want to text all day. I tried to explain as a single mom and to a young child im busy so very busy.. and i try best i can..
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I think my phone is in the other room, and honest, it may have been a quick hi around lunch? Granted, he's at work, but still. I love having freedoms throughout my day to come and go, and if a few hours go by, a few hours go by. He nor I feel unloved or unattended to. Even lately, *gasp* he's been going to sleep early, even a little earlier than I, and we are in different time zones and I'm the one ahead on the timeclock.
Not making time?! Not feeling loved?! Um, hun, silent treatments are symptomatic of various disorders. It took me a while, to understand my ex husband, even before we had married.
Needy and Clingy, is not what a single mum needs
Add: oh boy, missed a text from 30 minutes ago...sounds like a rough day, at work, which considering how the weeks been..just replied, let's see...
(ok, he may not be able to write, right back to me...so I'll edit or add reaction to my not being around for 30 minutes, later...
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7PM EST, I probably won't hear for another hour, note the consistency in the relationship. There was this one time, couple weeks ago, actually, I had just moved into my new place, was kind of in a meh mood going into this one particular morning(note pms) and I was so tired that when I looked at the bubbles, the text bubbles, I thought I'd texted at 8am to say good morning, um, nope had my colors all in reverse and about 3 hours later I did hear again, and he'd asked if everything was alright, because I wasn't quite myself..more withdrawn/aloof. Apologized, of course, because honest to goodness, he wasn't angry or anything like that. I gave it a serious amount of thought. How was I behaving different. (hard to tell long distance? au countraire, with two sensitive types) I flake, literally flake when I am going through 'that', and that's all there is. I said, well, that's actually that. I flake out. Better than mood swing, I am sure. It's because I get tired and not realize it, but that's sort of irrelevant. What I am trying to point out, is healthy approaches in contrast to cling and overbearing behaviors.
PS I doubt he'll mention anything about the space between the texting. It's consistent, as well. Consistency, happens in the morning, and at night.