One of my fondest memories of my grandfather is when he was walking around with my son (who wasn't well at the time) each having separate conversations completely oblivious to the other conversation. He brought him back ( they were walking in the enclosed garden). He looked at my son and told him that he hopes my son will still be at camp next weekend. ( they sold it a good 4 years before) When he brings his son mike who's 5 (45) so they can play together. He's happy to see such a polite young man and he has to always listen to his mom because she's doing a good job.

At first as kids we would remind him he said that, our names, but we quickly learned that its easier to "pretend" with grandpa then anger him. In. My grandpas. Last weeks he told my grandma he's sorry but he's always loved x and he's always regretted not asking her out and all these other tear jerking things about x as he asked for a divorce with my grandma to find x. He never did realize x was my grandma.

What I'm saying is once the person is safe then you can learn tons from who they were if you don't bother their current delusion unless its a negative one. I was one of the kids that couldn't watch him alone because I'd wandering with him to keep him safe. I couldn't get past the fact he was no longer my superior and I should/could tell him no and distract him.

See if there's dayhab for her? Are you in contact with your local Alzheimer's association? They probably have far more knowledge of local support to keep you and your mother as healthy and home as long as possible.