It sounds like this guy just hungers to be fawned over. He needs to be the "center of the universe." I'm going to give you a "heads up" on something: This guy is going to resent your child like crazy. Be very watchful. I think you have a lot to learn about this guy. He is a jealous attention-seeker, and you're going to see an ugly side to him. When you do, don't rationalize it away. Don't even let him know you are noticing it. That will just induce him to cover it up. If you give this guy enough rope, he is going to hang himself. You are a caring, decent person with a gentle wish to think well of others. I have a strong premonition that you will find that he and you do not share basic values. Love can overcome a lot . . . . . but not that.

I know you think you love him. I suspect you are a loving soul. What you love is the person you think he is. Be willing to test that out, and be ready to see the reality . . . which may be different from what you have conjured up in your mind. I get the strong impression that you have not spent enough time with this man to really know what he is about. That's okay. Spend time and see what that shows you. But keep your mind open. Don't try to make yourself believe that he is what you have been imagining him to be. Find out who he is. Who he wants to be may not be the person you want him to be. And that's his right.