I like to feel understood. It's very comforting to me to feel as though the other person really sees who I am. I think that helps with feeling anxious about judgement. If I know that another person truly sees the way that I work on the inside then I feel like they are less likely to judge me. For me this is vindicating.

I also like to have someone who will listen to my ideas, and who will argue with me about them. Or I can argue with them about their ideas (I'm an annoying intellectual type).

Sillyness is also important to me. My fiancee and I both had terrible childhoods so sometimes we are just silly together like kids. I don't know if I could do that if no one else was there. I have the most fun when I am with him.