But i think once you KNOW what they think of you - cuz i have the same problem - and if you can figure out where this reputation came from, things can get better because now you wont be wondering wtf is going on when they start exchanging these knowing glances. If you walk in knowing that they have these expectations, then i think you can avoid slipping into them. Easy for me to say - i totally avoid the family - weddings, funerals, everything. Its lonely, but im starting to actually like me and feel secure.