Good! I think it's obvious she cares a lot about you.

That's not what I find concerning. It's that you are happy to shrug and compromise and would rather be hurt than lose her, if - and of course it is a big hypothetical if - you felt the relationship was doing more harm than good. That is not having your own best interests at heart. That is refusing to be the star of your own life. It's not fully grasping that we only get one crack at this, that if you minimize your own needs and wants and dreams like that you'll be waiting for Godot and then suddenly wake up old.

Obviously, this is all merely my opinion