Woah! This "friend" of yours nearly got you in trouble with the police and yet you still forgave him?? Yep, I get the point that holding grudges against people, and nurturing your hatred and bad feelings rather than letting go can be bad for you, both physically and emotionally...(hey, I can talk, I'm the Queen of Holding Grudges)...but giving the person who hurt you a chance to do it again is going right to the other extreme!

Basically, you're giving this person the message that it's okay to treat you badly, as you'll always forgive him. The genuinely loving thing to do is NOT allow him to get away with it, as it won't do him any good to go on believing that he can walk all over other people without being held accountable for his actions. This deprives him of the opportunity to learn from his experiences and become a better person. Of course, if he absolutely doesn't want to change the way he relates to people, that's not your problem!

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