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Originally Posted by growlithing
What. No. I'm not wasting my life away in this relationship. I've known her for 7 months. I have made progress in those 7 months. The relationship is more helpful than harmful. I'm just talking about one part of it that upsets me. A small part.
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Ok - I think one of us if misunderstanding what the other is saying.
Perhaps I misinterpreted your saying you would rather be hurt by her than not have her, and took that to be you would be willing to put up with lots of sh.itty behavior.
Also, I think you misinterpreted what I'm saying, which is not that you are wasting away in this particular relationship as it is now - but that I find it a matter of concern that you might keep compromising and compromising and compromising and keep lowering the bar as to what you accept in terms of how you are treated.
It is quite obvious to me that the relationship with LC, as it is now, has done/ is doing you a power of good. I think she is great for you.
But none of us should be prepared to suck it up and blindly accept it if someone's behaviour changes for the worse, therapist or LC or whoever they are.