I agree that no one is saying your LCM is downright bad for you or implying that you must leave her.

It pains me to say this but I sometimes wonder if LCM is in over her head. It doesn't appear to me she has many boundaries, I might go far to say that it might be stressful to her to carry the weight of your love. What I mean is that she hasn't established clear boundaries with you and as a result you get hurt when she can't be there for you 24/7 or when she goes away. Going backwards with boundaries by trying to create them is a lot more difficult than establishing them initially, and I think she's realized this a bit too late.

And as many of have said, she is not a therapist and shouldn't be referred to as such. She doesn't have the certifications or the qualifications to be in a place where she holds so much power over you. I'm not sure I think she's doing good work by not pushing you a little harder to get more help from a licensed T. I wonder about this...it's like she thinks she can manage well enough alone, which doesn't strike me as a positive thing.

Grow, no matter how much you "fight" us and no matter how much you defend her, the majority of us here have deep reservations about keeping LCM as your only source of support. Please consider getting more help.