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Originally Posted by mcy60
I just read a saying tonight that might be helpful in making your decision: Toss a coin into the air, and during the time before it takes to land, your mind will already know the (true) answer. (Because secretly we'll most likely be hoping for one particular option to appear anyway.)
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Haha, I like that a lot, thank you. I should start doing all of my decisions like this, since I have a very hard time with picking and choosing...thank you.
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Originally Posted by TheOriginalMe
If you do decide to lead a nomad life then you must explain, to the people you love and to the people who love you, why you are leaving. To just up and leave without a goodbye or an explanation would be cruel, people love you and they need to know what is happening to you. If you can handle the explanations and goodbyes then you may well find what you need from the nomad life. If you just up and leave, then whatever you are running away from will stay with you and haunt you in some form or another.
Good luck with your choice.
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I could always leave a note. They'd never let me go if I said it in person, but only out of courtesy I'm assuming. And you're right, but maybe I will change along the way. Thank you.
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Originally Posted by zinco14532323
Everywhere you go there you are.
Think about that. I left home when I was 19 to get away from college and my parents. In hindsight I can't really say if it was a good or bad thing to do. In an ideal world I would have stayed and finished college. The drugs and alcohol and depression were so bad and I was f'ing up so bad I had to get away. Let me assure you that myself followed me.
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True, but with whatever I face I may change, grow, make more mistakes, learn from them...what if leaving would just be another big mistake that I learn from? It could be for the best, anyways. I'm in a similar spot, but with highschool, so maybe when I'm your age I'll feel the same way? But, it'll be my fault then. Did you change from your experiences, even a little? Thank you.
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Originally Posted by roads
You say you feel that you "have to leave," but the implication seems to be that you think the others will be better off without you. Hopefully, though, they will miss you as much as you miss them once you are apart.
This 20 day deadline sounds too important for something that seems to cover the rest of your life. If you are young and walk away from your social basis, education, employment, then wherever you go you will be starting from scratch. You'll never accomplish much. When you pick up stakes and move on, you won't have much accumulated.
Are you punishing yourself? If you don't make assumptions about how others feel about you, then you always have options. I'd suggest you rethink this ... maybe talk it through with some one having more life experience of a similar nature.
Be good to yourself.
Roads
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I love them so much but things would just be better if I went away and was forgotten. I don't know what I'm looking for and you're right, the 20 day deadline is a big decision. But, I had thought about this three years ago, and I've been thinking about it again. Since September I've been thinking about this, so I've had more than enough time. Only thing I have to do left is make some preparations.
Punishing myself? I'm not sure. I can't tell, unfortunately. Sorry for the incomplete and confusing answer. I like your idea of finding someone to talk to about this who is older, and may actually have the experience - but where should I find someone? I could try Google but I don't know if these people ever got an internet connection again. Thank you, for everything.