OKay, I've got to admit this is a hard one Rhap so I am sorry I've not been posting. Although i have been visiting because I like the song that pops out the speakers when i click here. (i think of you!)

So, I can only say that this alter really intends on fighting you all the way on nearly all the BIG important issues. It is almost an opposite reflection of what you want to achieve. This must be very frustrating. I am frustrated with this and I cannot know how to begin to disarm this alter.

I would think that somehow, expanding on what you've said above, you must try as best you can to determine what it is that separates the two of you. You mentioned this being hard to do, but I can easily see her opposition to you on some things so the list is a great start. Can you expand that list and reread it often to gauge your level of understanding about this separation? If you can SEE it down on paper this might help a little. I am very visual so i would try the list and then maybe once you have a good list going, try to be as specific as possible about the differences, everything you can narrow down to specifics (as you're doing above---keep getting more and more specific). Emotions, visuals, qualities, traits etc....specific is the key. Maybe we can reduce the blur between you.

I think it's also good that you can recount actual events that this has happened because it may give your mind a disguished sense of abilty to separate the alter from you.

Does this sound like a reasonable start? The list and specifics? It's, right now, the only non-frightening and non-threatening way I see to start this. This is going to be the toughest one. Even if you remain together as you've mentioned, it will be beneficial to you to be able to disccern what emotion/action is coming from you or the alter or both. Maybe, if the alter stays around, the goal can be to create a balance or harmony between you that you can trust or rely to stay in the boundaries. Either way, the list imo is a great way to start.

What do you think? Haven't heard your little voice in a bit...