Honestly, if a sibling or parent were crying, I would feel equal amounts of discomfort...I would try to calm them, but would feel awkward doing it. If a friend were needing support I would try, but again, I'm not a very good friend...in fact, I'm a much better aquaintance (people seem to feel safe telling me the most intimate details of their lives)...for a limited time. Once it becomes a 'friendship' then I feel smothered and awkward.

If a lover were upset or crying, I would dissolve in hurt for him. I have, even. I'm not sure what the difference is, but it's there. Sorry I can't be of more help, but I think because of previous hurts, I tend to keep the wall up around myself consistantly and that doesn't offer much opportunity to create, or maintain friendships, or the kind of feelings you are wondering about.